Friendly Neighbourhood Blogger: 7 Ways to Geek Out in Coventry

I’m so happy to see the amount of geek events Coventry has – it’s grown so much over the last few years! At one point there was very little to do in terms of nerdy things but I think with the opening of FarGo Village 3 years ago it’s becoming increasingly popular. Local businesses are beginning to realise – hey! There’s scope for geekery! Let’s run with it!

Being a social butterfly, I am always looking for new things to do and see. So here are just a few of my recommendations for Geeky things to do in Coventry…

Major Adulting: Pay your Dues to the Drama Llama

So there’s a little llama (probably actually an alpaca) trinket tray I bought for my friend recently. When my anxieties were taking root and it caused a rift between me and another friend, she told me to pay a pound to the Drama Llama; a bit like you would give to a swear jar. It sounds so ridiculous, but in doing so it was easy to denounce the drama and not let it take root.

Often I let my anxieties govern me, so it felt refreshing for someone to say “Okay, draw a line under it, pay your dues for it, move forward.” It’s so easy to get caught up in emotions and stress can often be difficult to avoid. Sometimes we don’t realise things are affecting us, we then deflect those feelings onto others and end up causing lots of unnecessary heartache.

So I’ve decided to make a list to myself, of pointers to help me find some clarity during these particular periods of stress.

Focus on what’s real and true

For a while I’ve been floating along and not really realising what’s made me happy within myself. Often I leave it to other people to validate my existence when really I should have focused inwardly and figured out – what are the facts about me? What do I really feel, when I strip it all back? Focus on the little moments that make me really happy.

Beat the FOMO

The thought of spending time alone right now is so appealing and yet the FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) is real! I need to just say nothing to a single soul for a few days. But can I bring myself to do it? Nope. I rely so much on my friends (who are amazing, btw) that I don’t think I could be happy in my own company. It’s really something I need to work on and make sure that I take some me-time.

Keep your friends close, and your enemies AS FAR AWAY AS POSSIBLE.

It’s hard when people who should support you, end up being the very people who stop you from flourishing and trigger your worst anxieties. Recently I had to cut out some people from my life that just weren’t helping me and kept me feeling worried and unhappy. I felt guilty, but overall it was necessary – and I already am starting to feel less stressed.

Guilt-Free Free-time

I feel like I’m constantly being pulled in all directions, and mostly I feel guilty for not spending the time to focus on the things I really should. I can’t spend an evening watching TV without feeling I should be doing a million other things, particularly when stress means my creativity suffers. I need to create healthy short-term goals, start working on them, piece by piece and not be afraid to take a break!

Lizzie Bee Writing Into The Ether Coventry Bloggers

Outfit photos are all by the lovely Lizzie!

Overall, the anxieties I’ve been feeling have been getting in the way of my creativity. I feel like my world is overwhelming; even the smallest thing can turn into a chore if presented at the wrong time. I keep saying the words “today I change“… but then it’s “today” now, it’s today again.

Realistically I don’t know when it will be that I finally take my own advice but for now, I stop spending too much time on things that make me unhappy and focus on what’s real.
I pay my dues to the Drama Llama, I draw a line, and move forward.

If I Could Turn Back Time: Why I love the 1950s

I absolutely love the vintage aesthetic of the 50’s. I know it could be partly down to nostalgic re-imaginings of the era but if I could live in one other decade from the past, it would be this one.

My friend Lizzie took me out for an afternoon tea as a belated birthday gift, to this gorgeous vintage salon with a 1950s look and it rekindled my love for the style! I want to seek out vintage fairs and more locations like Le Keux (the diner/salon we visited). Places that keep the 50’s spirit alive but are a little closer to home!

I attended the Goodwood Revival (a vintage festival) every year for the past 4 years, but this year I won’t be able to go! Travelling the 150 miles or so for the day always takes it out of me, so I never have the effort left to make myself dress up, and I feel it is a waste. If only it were a little closer…

Geeking Out Loud: My Top 9 Favourite Games of All Time (Up ’til Now)

Some people like going out-out to break free from life. Some bake cakes, go hiking, scream into the void, play guitar… For me, my go-to outlets have always been games. They have influenced me, shaped my character, been an escape when I had nothing else… Some have become a part of me (literally) and inspired me to create awesome things. But then again, some have just blissfully wasted my precious life.

So here is my definitive list: my favourite games to date and why I love them.

Little Princess 1993: Achieving Everything and Nothing At All

When I was 4, I won an award for being a Little Princess and (I jest that) it’s my most recognised achievement to date. The trophy has survived every clear out and house move my mum has had and as of today it’ll be 25 years old.  I literally won it for being pretty (and also probably stood out due to the awesome hand-made dress that my grandma made for me.) I joked with my mum, that it was the only thing I’d ever really achieved.

To Dream the Impossible Dream: A Significant Life Update

Recently, my life has been turned upside-down. For so long I’ve been holding back what I wanted to do, who I wanted to be, the life I wanted to live. It was no-one’s fault; it just became this way slowly and I filled my life with material things as a way of filling some kind of void that I had inside me.

This isn’t one of those posts where I preach about how material things are unimportant. I understand that they all have a place, and so many things hold meaning in people’s lives. But to cut a long story short, I have (at least in the short term) moved out of my house and left a great deal of these material things behind, and it’s given me a little perspective on what’s really important.

“To dream the impossible dream, To fight the unbeatable foe
To bear with unbearable sorrow,To run where the brave dare not go”

Major Adulting: Trying to Capture my Creative Spark

For weeks now, I’ve felt overwhelmed by the most minor of tasks… It’s safe to say I have not been adulting very well. Any thought of writing or creating was completely out of the window, as I struggled with the basic instinct of waking up and giving a damn about anything past what’s in front of my eyes. It’s a horrible feeling. It quells my ability to stop and truly think deeply about anything.

Every time I started a blog post, I typed out a paragraph and then thought, this is going nowhere. I’ve been through stints like this before – where everything is a struggle and it feels like I’m trapped behind a haze inside my own brain. But the logical side of me always knows it doesn’t last.

I just needed to wait it out.

Major Adulting: Hosting Coventry Bloggers’ First Mixer Event

Blogging for me has always been an outlet – a place to get my thoughts and experiences down as memories (and just try to improve my writing along the way.) I never knew that it could also bring me so many opportunities to meet new people and get involved in local events.

For a few months now, I’ve been working on a project called Coventry Bloggers. Coventry’s blogging scene needs livening up SO much and we focus on putting bloggers in touch with companies and with each other. We just hosted our first Blogger Mixer event yesterday and I am pleased to say it was a huge success!

Amy Turner and the Cursed Child Review *CONTAINS SPOILERS, PEOPLE*

Have you ever been to a Shakespeare play, as opposed to reading it in school? There is little basis for comparison – if you haven’t read the book before seeing the play, just don’t bother. I wish I hadn’t. Harry Potter and the Cursed Child was MADE for the theatre. I can’t stand it when people dismiss books of plays and say they’re rubbish – it just doesn’t give the story justice.

So last week, I went to see Harry Potter and the Cursed Child. I put off doing this post because I wasn’t sure about trying not to reveal the secrets. There is a lot of tension surrounding them; I’d suggest if you haven’t been to see the play you should try to avoid reading about it. So…