Internal Debate: Whose voice is it anyway?

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I’ve decided to try out a new post style – the Internal Debate! These will just be “thinking out loud” kind of posts.
So in this post, I’m looking into the voices we use and discussing which is “the true you” – Inner voice, Public voice or Online voice? We all know we speak with different voices to address different people we come into contact with. But which truly represents us?

The Inner Voice

You’ve likely all seen the memes, that inner demon voice! The one who tells you to take another biscuit or pretend to be asleep so you don’t have anyone sit next to you on the train…
The one who secretly loves that “Schadenfreude” feeling when you see someone miss a bus. It’s one of those smug little voices that make you laugh at everyday misfortunes.

Other than these more harmless things, my inner voice tends to demoralise my thoughts.

  • “…but who actually cares…”
  • “… remove that artwork from Facebook – it’s just not good enough!”
  • “…but you’re so insignificant in this world of a billion voices.”

Most of the time I find that I am actually battling against myself to remain positive. I can be really easily triggered into negativity and often my inner voice is so strong that I struggle to stop it from becoming my public voice. Often thanks to my inner voice, I end up saying ridiculous things I don’t mean… Can any of you relate?

In 2016 I actually cut myself off from things I loved – it was a form of self-preservation. I am hoping to take a few more risks now and not be afraid to fail!
It took me a long time to prove (to myself mostly) that you should:

  • Do things because you love them
  • Say things if you feel real passion for the subject
  • Take more risks and not be afraid to fail
  • Not be afraid to write things down even if there’s no-one there to read them.

The Public Voice

The external voice used to address friends, family, people you know and can be yourself around. Ultimately what I would deem to be “me”, as I tend to be quite open and honest with my feelings towards everyone I love. I’d hope that everyone else that I know could feel comfortable enough to do the same. Life is way too short for filtering yourself, putting yourself down or worrying. If you’re speaking with good intentions and thoughts and not hate, then I’d say fire away.

The Online Voice

The voice we use when posting online content. I think this is what this whole post has been leading to. I’ve blogged for a few years now but you’d never know it was me who was writing. On my work blog, I’m a SUPER positive sales-person. My aim is to keep my online voice in this blog as true a reflection of myself as possible.

This could prove to be difficult! It seems the key to successful blogs is to target your readers by changing your writing style to promote yourself as a brand. Often you need to use language that fits with your audience’s demographic. Currently, it’s words like Holla! or Slay! I could go on but basically anything from the Missguided homepage. That’s just not me!

I know I’ve changed my online voice to meet the trends (hence cringing at what I thought was okay to post on Facebook in 2008) but after looking back at my academic blog posts from 2010  it seems my online voice hasn’t changed all that much. So I hope I can maintain that… and I guess let’s just see where this blog leads!

So what do you think? Do you feel how you’re perceived is how you truly are? Is it ever really possible?

Until next time,

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  1. Dave
    10th February 2017

    Interesting post! 🙂

    I’m reminded of the 7 Habits series that I did at work with this… have you heard of it?


  2. Amy_Ether
    10th February 2017

    Thanks Dave!
    I haven’t come across that before, you’ll have to explain to me when we see one another next 🙂

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