Major Adulting: Failing at my Goals and Not Giving A Damn

When I was 28, which seems such a short time ago, I made a list of 30 goals I wanted to achieve before I was 30. Simple right? Make 30 plans, stick to them and tick them off one by one. Ha!

In case you didn’t get from the “Ha”… I was being sarcastic. It was so hard to complete even half of the goals I made but I am really happy with what I did manage! Here are some of the reasons why I couldn’t do them, and why, actually… it’s okay to fail sometimes!

Many of them involved actually having money

A few of these involved having money and having people to accompany me who also had money and had the same goals as me… This was a little tricky. Other things would come up and I ended up wanting to use my money to go to other places. Yes, ultimately I would love to visit Disneyland and Iceland, but really, there’s still time!

Time is my Enemy

Literally cannot get a moment’s peace and quiet! By April, I’d already planned out every weekend up until the end of June. People are asking me if I’m free and I’m at event after event, I have my birthday plans and holidays… With this in mind, how would I have ever found time to do 30 days of volunteering? Or do an art project of the calibre I did at A-Level where that was literally my only job?

I’ve changed, bro

My goals when I was 28 are just not the same anymore. Visiting waxwork museums and eating in Michelin star restaurants are on my to-do list but not my priority. I think there are still lots on my list I’d love to do though, like creating a photo album of my life so far! I don’t feel bad though, because I have done so many other amazing things instead!

There are a few that I’ve put off…

There are a few where, I’ve been a chicken. I’ve not done them because it requires hard-work and actually putting myself out there. Like learning a new skill by attending a class – it’s not just the time factor. It’s the effort I have none of. Plus there are some I didn’t do as it requires changing my lifestyle. I did manage to go vegan for a month which was a big lifestyle change, but I never managed a tech-free month. I just couldn’t do it.

I ended up completing 17 out of 30 goals, which I guess isn’t too bad! It’s over half, and I’m really proud of my accomplishments even without these ones being completed. This year I’ve done so much, for my blog and for myself – and enjoyed every minute! The 18th goal and the last one I’m going to manage before my birthday is to “See in my 30th birthday in style” – don’t worry, I’ve got that covered…

If there’s one thing I know how to do, it’s how to throw a party.


  1. Lizzie Bee
    4th June 2019

    Go you for not giving a damn about ticking everything off your to-do list! I know loads of people – including myself – get riddled by terrible guilt if we haven’t achieved everything we wanted to do, so reading this was quite refreshing. I’d love to try going vegan for a month though…

    1. Amy_Ether
      4th June 2019

      Yeah! There’s no use feeling guilty 🙂 xxx just stay positive, and move forward on to the next thing.

  2. Heather
    4th June 2019

    “Or do an art project of the calibre I did at A-Level where that was literally my only job?”

    Oh my, that one hit me right in the feels and you just articulated something I’ve been feeling for years without being able to put my finger on exactly what IT was. I’ve had such a hard time with my art since college (horrible teachers and other circumstances didn’t help either), and I’ve never been able to get back to the same calibre that I know I’m capable of and it stings. But you’re completely right! Back then putting hours of work into one art project was not just acceptable but what we were expected to do.

    I want to applaud you for standing up and saying you just couldn’t do some of your goals. As you said there is no shame in that and what we want to do, what we aim for and what we find ourselves able to do just doesn’t always line up.

    Here’s to your 30s; welcome to the club!

  3. Mariah Kaercher
    4th June 2019

    I agreed with what you said about how goals can change. I completely agree. I have set personal goals for myself that are different now and that’s even just a year later.

  4. Nat
    5th June 2019

    Aww I love this post Amy! 😀 I know loads of people who set goals to aim to complete each year, as well as before they hit a certain age (21 and 30 being the main ones!).

    I used to set goals every year and eventually I thought – fuck it. I’m not going to achieve it!

    I don’t really have a list of things I aim to do really… I just have them in mind that I would like to do them and if I managed to get them done, that’s a plus! 😀

    I really love this post though, you’ll never fail at life sweet. You’re too fab for that! 😀

  5. Beth Dolle
    5th June 2019

    I love this article. I’m approaching 28 this year and it scares me that I’m just that much closer to 30. I also have had a huge to-do list but I like optimistic your reflection is on not having meet all your goals (and that’s okay!). This has inspired me to take a look at my own list and revise it so that in the next few years I’m focusing more on realistic goals compared to bucket-list type goals. Thanks for the inspiration. 🙂

    1. Amy_Ether
      7th June 2019

      Thank you so much! I am glad the post could inspire you! 😀

  6. Eloise
    19th July 2019

    I love this post. It’s great that you’ve been able to achieve a lot of stuff, and recognise reasons for not achieving other things, but not beat yourself up about it 🙂
    Failure is such a necessary part of life. The trick is the learn from it and to not give up! (Now I just need to take my own advice on this subject… xD)


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